Behind Closed Doors
A thought that haunts me endlessly and I keep on thinking of ways to find a solution to it or at least be of some help to the one's who are suffering. I am speaking of numerous women who suffer from marital woes, dirty kitchen politics, mindless domestic drama in their lives and always give-in to abide by them for the sake of family peace and harmony.
From a distance life seems all rosy, happy, on the track, for these suave middle-class working women with a degree from a reputed institution, a job with a brand name that bears more than half a million rupees in a year, a few years of marriage, loving kids, devoted husband, in-laws with whom you leave behind the kids. Dig a bit deeper and each of these oh-so-cool women will relate their deep, dark stories that they are trying to make peace with everyday.
Personally, knowing a few of them and then their circumstances makes me wonder when will we as a society learn to respect females. A journalist, a professor, a senior manger with an MNC, a counselor with a reputed institution all have more or less similar stories to narrate. One of them says, my husband (then fiance) was all lovey-dovey before marriage promising love and romance, now 6 years into marriage hasn't even bought a tissue paper for my 5 year old daughter, as i have to bear the brunt of delivering a female child. He doesn't even likes to speak to me except when we have an argument. Mother-in-law herself a senior administrator in a reputed educational institute leaves no stone upturned to insult and demean me especially when the son is around, who is well oblivious to his dear mother's attitude. The child witnessing everyday drama, brought up with the support of maids as she could not leave the job for lack of financial support. The said husband is an officer with one of the branches of Indian Defense Services. So much for the country!
Another one narrates that two kids and a 7 year marriage later she isn't allowed to cook and eat in the joint kitchen as per her wish, as she tends to disturb the entire system of working, spends a lot, spoils the maid. All this for the one, who brings home almost a million a year! Despite ill-health and doctor's advise to take a break from work she is toiling hard in order to stay away from the regular brawls at home as the office hours give her some peace of mind. Dare you speak your mind or suggest something to be done differently or demand a little privacy from husband and you are simply handed over the yellow card - to follow rules or get lost and she is still figuring out where to? Husband's mum on the "mum-factor" and continues to be the quintessential "mama's boy" who has turned a blind eye to the wife's deteriorating health, physical as well as mental.
God made Eve out of Adam's rib near his heart which is supposedly the ideal place for her to be, near the man's heart. However, with shrinking world human beings have also become the same, with too small a heart and brain.
From a distance life seems all rosy, happy, on the track, for these suave middle-class working women with a degree from a reputed institution, a job with a brand name that bears more than half a million rupees in a year, a few years of marriage, loving kids, devoted husband, in-laws with whom you leave behind the kids. Dig a bit deeper and each of these oh-so-cool women will relate their deep, dark stories that they are trying to make peace with everyday.
Personally, knowing a few of them and then their circumstances makes me wonder when will we as a society learn to respect females. A journalist, a professor, a senior manger with an MNC, a counselor with a reputed institution all have more or less similar stories to narrate. One of them says, my husband (then fiance) was all lovey-dovey before marriage promising love and romance, now 6 years into marriage hasn't even bought a tissue paper for my 5 year old daughter, as i have to bear the brunt of delivering a female child. He doesn't even likes to speak to me except when we have an argument. Mother-in-law herself a senior administrator in a reputed educational institute leaves no stone upturned to insult and demean me especially when the son is around, who is well oblivious to his dear mother's attitude. The child witnessing everyday drama, brought up with the support of maids as she could not leave the job for lack of financial support. The said husband is an officer with one of the branches of Indian Defense Services. So much for the country!
Another one narrates that two kids and a 7 year marriage later she isn't allowed to cook and eat in the joint kitchen as per her wish, as she tends to disturb the entire system of working, spends a lot, spoils the maid. All this for the one, who brings home almost a million a year! Despite ill-health and doctor's advise to take a break from work she is toiling hard in order to stay away from the regular brawls at home as the office hours give her some peace of mind. Dare you speak your mind or suggest something to be done differently or demand a little privacy from husband and you are simply handed over the yellow card - to follow rules or get lost and she is still figuring out where to? Husband's mum on the "mum-factor" and continues to be the quintessential "mama's boy" who has turned a blind eye to the wife's deteriorating health, physical as well as mental.
God made Eve out of Adam's rib near his heart which is supposedly the ideal place for her to be, near the man's heart. However, with shrinking world human beings have also become the same, with too small a heart and brain.
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